It may sound cliché when people tell us to just be happy. If only it were that simple. Sometimes we’re insecure, because we feel like we’re not where we want to be in life. Perhaps, we are comparing our lives to other people, and saying to ourselves, “Why can’t I be rich?/ Why can’t I have as many friends as this person?/Why am I not good-looking enough? Why am I not as successful as I should be?” We all have these questions lingering in our head, like little poisonous reminders.
Well, let’s first break down what it means to be “successful.” Success doesn’t have to mean being rich with an expensive Lamborghini or a mansion somewhere in Beverly Hills. We see success as living a glamorous life, while we are ignoring the beauty right in front of us.
You may think you’re not successful, but I am here to remind you that you literally are.
YOU ARE ALWAYS IMPROVING
Think about it. You are still getting up every morning doing something to better yourself. Perhaps, you’re going to the gym or maybe even learning a new workout that you saw on Youtube. The fact that you want to change in many aspects of your life, shows that you are growing and learning. Maybe you’re taking a new class, and want to learn how to bartend or act. You’re curious to take on a new skill and try something new. Sounds to me like success.
YOU FIND HUMOR IN LIFE
We all have our bad days when we want to break down and cry or just give up, altogether. That’s okay, because we are human, and that’s what we do. However, we are still here today, laughing at things that make us happy. Perhaps it’s a meme you saw on Instagram or maybe you and your friends still laugh about inside jokes. The truth is, life will never be perfect, not even for Beyoncé.
If you are still able to laugh, that in itself is a blessing. It’s a sign that life can’t break you, and you are still here finding something to smile about. Whatever it is that makes you laugh, keep on living your life that way.
THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU
I know this sounds super corny, but to be honest, it’s the truth. Now, I’m not saying you have to be the most popular person in the planet or have a big circle of friends. Me, personally, do not have many friends at all. However, there might be just one person who always checks in with you. Perhaps this person calls or texts once in a blue moon. Whatever the relationship may be, you are a special person to someone.
We take people for granted, because maybe we don’t express ourselves as often as we should. Does that mean we don’t have love for the people around us? If there is anyone in your life who makes an effort to reach out to you, then you are blessed. Be thankful for the people in your life, even if it’s a small amount.
YOU ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS IN LIFE
The best things in life really are the little things. You don’t have to travel everywhere or go to every cool concert on earth to live an “exciting life.” Some of my favorite memories I’ve had are late-night driving at midnight, listening to music and smoking a blunt.
Perhaps you enjoy going to the gym, because you have a community of people you see everyday, and you feel like the biggest celebrity. Or, maybe you’re so excited to workout, because you can’t wait to deadlift 300 pounds and you want to show off in front of all the guys. I’m totally talking about myself, by the way. You get the point.
The small things in life are worth living for.
YOU ACCEPT YOURSELF, EVEN THROUGH YOUR MISTAKES
Some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned was from the mistakes I’ve made. Maybe you went to jail, have been passed out drunk, hooked up with a toxic somebody that you’d like to forget, maybe you just have a habit of putting yourself in semi-dangerous situations, and would take it all back.
Yes, we’ve all done things we’re not proud of, and you are not a bad person. Read that again, you are not a bad person.
The truth of the matter is, you are strong individual who has learned from your past, have been beaten down many times, and at some point in your life, felt like you didn’t want to exist. I’ve been there.
You are here right now, stronger than ever, moving forward and doing better for yourself. Be proud of who you are today, right now. Because, we’ll never know what it’s like to rise if we don’t fall. And you, my friend, are here to rise.