Being a bartender is the kind of side hustle that everyone should experience at least once in their lifetime. From the money to the people, this job can certainly be beneficial for someone who wants to make good money, with a flexible schedule. I mean, being a bartender is cool. Even T-Pain would be proud of you, that is, if you thinks he's "cool," and "give him a wink back." Here are 7 cool reasons to be a bartender. Meeting Interesting People- There's are a lot of interesting people, to say the least. There's never a day where you won't meet any characters. Remember, it's a bar, so for the most part, many people who show up are seeking to escape their reality, and will most likely not be sober. Network- The great think about working at a bar is you will meet many types of people, including people who can benefit your future. Working at a bar, I've met many people from all kinds of backgrounds, including the movie industry, attorneys, actors, musicians, and many more. As someone who is constantly interacting with people, this is an easy way to make connections through small conversation. A little interaction goes a long way. Being a "drink expert"- The cool thing about being a bartender is, you have the knowledge about many types of drinks. You can show off in front of your friends, and be like, "Oh, well did you know that the difference between a Joe Collins and Tom Collins is that Joe means Scotch and Tom is gin?" You can be a smart ass, if you want, and tell your girlfriend, " You forgot to add triple sec to that Long Island Ice Tea of yours." Moolah baby- Hello! Who doesn't want money? There are plenty of ways to make money, and I mean A LOT. First of all, you can book tons of events, from private events to celebrity functions, to house parties. Just imagine what your tips would look like if DaBaby or Amber Rose threw an event? You'd make bank! Travel, travel, travel!- Just imagine all of the places you can book? Say for instance, they're looking for a bartender in Miami or New Orleans, and they select you! You are the superstar!-You are the star of the show. You run this sh--! Just know that you are the bartender, so if people like you, most likely they will come back to see you. You can be whoever you want or even change your name. You are the Beyoncé! You can even do a dance if you want to. Just like a show, if people are entertained, they will come back for more. More people means more money, and you, my friend, are on the red carpet. Smile! Build social skills- Obviously, we live in a world where we have to talk to people. Sorry, my friends, but social media isn't the only way to communicate in this world. From meeting all types of people with different personalities and backgrounds, you will have no choice but to build your verbal and nonverbal communication skills.Read More
As a black woman, it’s hard to call myself black in a world that rejects my identity. My mom is black and Filipino and my dad is Creole, so they’re both black. I’ve never had any ties with my roots, except for being black in Los Angeles. The only “culture” I know is the black community in LA, of barber shops on Crenshaw, Westcoast rap, soul food, Baldwin Hills Mall (also growing up in Vegas). My grandma is from Louisiana, and I’ve only been to New Orleans a few times in my life. Still, I’m a black LA girl. All my life I've struggled with my identity, because I wasn’t sure which “box” to fit in. I wasn’t black enough for the hood or the black kids, and everyone thought I was Hispanic. Here are some struggles of growing up mixed. You’re never fully accepted - You’re either not black enough, too light, or “different” from the others. It feels like you’re trying to fit in, even when you already know who you are. People get angry when you tell them what you are, because they want you to be something you’re not. You're questioned about your ethnicity so much, you have to give everyone you meet a history lesson about your life- It's annoying to have to tell random people what I am, every single time I meet someone. It's like a repetitive script I keep in my head, because I know they're going to ask me what I am. I say, "My mom's black and Filipino and my dad is Creole," and so on. “What are you?” is a question you’ve heard all your life- It’s similar to when a person asks a dog owner, “What breed is your dog?” Random strangers will approach you, and feel entitled to know your background, because they’ve never seen anything like you. You’re like this weird creature. “Where are you really from?” is another question you’ve heard- I grew up in Los Angeles and partly Vegas, but somehow, people seem to think I’m from this foreign island, somewhere where there’s exotic parakeets and coconuts. People always assume you’re foreign, because you “look different.” One guy told me, “You look like you’re from somewhere, where the sun shines differently.” Not sure what sun that is, but hey- sounds cool, I guess. People make assumptions about your socioeconomic status, interests- If I listen to rap music, wear braids, hoop earrings, and talk with slang, or hang out in the hood I’m “trying” to be black. People think I’m a tourist in the streets I grew up in- Every time I hang out in Inglewood, Slauson, or somewhere “dangerous,” people assume I’m not from the area, and that I’m naive, and too proper of a lady to be associated with those neighborhoods. Or, they think I'm a Valley Girl, because I "talk white," and "look different" so I wouldn't know those areas. Even if I literally lived there, I'm not "really" from the area, because I'm not "black enough" to be culturally aware. People glorify and fetishize my non-black, "exotic" traits- People aren't quite fascinated when I say I'm black, until I say I'm mixed with Filipino and Creole. They think it's a compliment to say I'm "exotic," or light-skinned. "You're not like other black girls," and "I don't like black girls, but you're an exception," is supposed to be a compliment. It reminds me of the slave days, when the white masters raped the black women, and the "mulatto" offspring was apparent. It reminds me of the twisted, ignorant Eurocentric beauty standards in society, where the lighter your skin, the more desirable you are, just like the video vixens in a rap video. You learn to deal with ignorance- You can't educate the whole world. As long as you know who you are, it doesn't matter how people categorize you. You accept you for you- People will say you're this and that, you're not enough, or maybe you're too much. Whatever you've heard, just know that you are a a strong, awesome human being in a world of miseducated people. Just be yourself.Read More
I'm currently on my "journey" of limiting my social media. I must say, it's quite refreshing to not know what's going on with the world. It's like a breath of fresh air to know that I don't have to stalk someone else's life and see who has the best gym body. It's nice to not wonder who's liking my pictures and if my crush watched my story. It's nice to not care who thinks what of me. I've taken "trips" away from social media, because of my constant distractions. I would find myself wasting a lot of time. For one, I would spend 30 minutes in my car, on SnapChat, lip-syncing to rap songs, or writing paragraphs on Instagram, telling the world how depressed I was. It was so bad, that I had to step away. Why? I felt like I was losing a part of myself, wasting time, and building up my anxiety. However, the problem with not wanting to be on social media is that in this day and age, it's essential for business. As a young woman in the entertainment industry, who acts, hosts, and writes, social media is a huge part of my business. Social media is essential for building my brand, in some aspect. I'm sure you're wondering, hmmmm, how can I use social media and still be productive? Here are some ways that helped me manage my social media time.
- Keep Track of Your Time- Don't assume your time on social media, know it. I've given myself a 3 hour limit in one day for social media use. If I'm being honest, I usually spend at least 8 hours a day on social media, and I began to realize that it was a problem I had to address. There are apps for social media management, including In Moment, Offtime, and more.
- Post and Leave- Post whatever it is you're going to post, and then walk away. It's done. Don't go back to check who's watching you and who's liking your pictures. You are given people too much power when you rely on their validation. Post what makes you happy, and be content with just that. If you have work you want to share, including music, videos, a blog, or whatever it is, post it, without seeking validation.
- Connect With a Purpose- If you want to reach out to someone, do just that. Of course, life is about networking and building relationships. Know your objective and pursue that. There are plenty of ways to network without mindlessly scrolling through your favorite rappers IG selfies.
- Learn Something- There's plenty of useful information to consume, if you do your research. For someone who's greatly into fitness, I will go and look at fitness models who post their workouts, and apply that into my gym routine. Perhaps if someone is posting their nutrition plan, I can take notes and apply it to my eating habits. Social media can be great for educating yourself, when needed.
- Get Used to "Missing Out"- Do you think your life will be better by knowing what who posted on Worldstar or Shaderoom? Do you think you'd be happier to see who's throwing a party every weekend? We all fear "missing out," but in reality, we are not missing out on anything. What we can do is create the life we want in real life, for ourselves. You want to be lit? Every day, do something that you can apply to your goals. Don't miss our on your own opportunities by trying to keep up with everyone else.
- Have Discipline- It's okay to be on Instagram, Snapchat, and Facebook. You're not a terrible person for posting a selfie here and there, or perhaps some memes. I'm not saying to completely shun it from your life. Be smart about it. Enjoy your time on social media, but know your limits. Recognize your bad habits and ask yourself, "Am I spending too much time on social media? Is it affecting me, mentally? Is it affecting my goals?" You control social media. Don't let it control you.
While fans are still waiting for Lil Uzi's Eternal Atake, after months, Uzi has just released a new video, "Futsal Shuffle 2020." Uzi seems to be doing big things this year, as he will also be a significant lineup for Coachella. This years seems like it's going to be a lit one for the rockstar rapper. We are still unsure why Uzi has not released the album, but fans seem to think there was conflict with his cover art. His cover art was similar to the Heaven's Gate logo for the UFO based cult, where 39 members committed suicide in 1997. Uzi deleted the cover art from his Instagram.
“Our attorneys are working with him on direct and clear infringement of trademarks, copyrights and use of logo,” a Heaven's Gate rep said. “We are also dealing with expressions of ‘Fair Use’, which is cited when this kind of image is displayed. The artist has to be careful to not make full use of the spirit and meaning of the group while altering images of it to make it look like he isn’t infringing. We will see what can be sorted out. It is in the hands of attorneys." LilUziVert via Instagram / Heaven's GateOver a month ago, Uzi hyped up his fans as he showed off his crazy dance moves, on social media. No doubt, fans are ballistic over Uzi, as he gets crazy on stage. Social media was lit, and were posting their own videos, following Uzi's dance. Not only did Uzi get the hype going, but fans were suspecting a new album. Perhaps, Uzi was anticipating something." Luv Is Rage 2, with seven-times platinum single “XO Tour Llif3” when Uzi was a part of 2016 XXL Freshman. Uzi has released videos for "That's a Rack" and "Sanguine Paradise." Others songs like “Free Uzi” and the leaked records "Everything Lit" and "Introvert." "The Single that I’m going with From 'Eternal Atake' is a Dance Record called FUTSAL," the rapper announced on Twitter. "THE DANCE IS CALLED THE FUTSAL SHUFFLE," exclaims Uzi. Whatever Uzi does, it's always a surprise, and out of the ordinary. In May 2019, Lil Uzi did an interview, as he fled from the scene, and took off, while Nardwuar was chasing him. Or, perhaps he'll show up at a school bus of kids and say, "It's my 3rd day. Whether it's an album or random surprise, we can't get enough of the one and only, Lil Uzi Vert. Read More
It may sound cliché when people tell us to just be happy. If only it were that simple. Sometimes we're insecure, because we feel like we're not where we want to be in life. Perhaps, we are comparing our lives to other people, and saying to ourselves, "Why can't I be rich?/ Why can't I have as many friends as this person?/Why am I not good-looking enough? Why am I not as successful as I should be?" We all have these questions lingering in our head, like little poisonous reminders. Sound familiar? Well, let's first break down what it means to be "successful." Success doesn't have to mean being rich with an expensive Lamborghini or a mansion somewhere in Beverly Hills. We see success as living a glamorous life, while we are ignoring the beauty right in front of us. You may think you're not successful, but I am here to remind you that you literally are. YOU ARE ALWAYS IMPROVING Think about it. You are still getting up every morning doing something to better yourself. Perhaps, you're going to the gym or maybe even learning a new workout that you saw on Youtube. The fact that you want to change in many aspects of your life, shows that you are growing and learning. Maybe you're taking a new class, and want to learn how to bartend or act. You're curious to take on a new skill and try something new. Sounds to me like success. YOU FIND HUMOR IN LIFE We all have our bad days when we want to break down and cry or just give up, altogether. That's okay, because we are human, and that's what we do. However, we are still here today, laughing at things that make us happy. Perhaps it's a meme you saw on Instagram or maybe you and your friends still laugh about inside jokes. The truth is, life will never be perfect, not even for Beyoncé. If you are still able to laugh, that in itself is a blessing. It's a sign that life can't break you, and you are still here finding something to smile about. Whatever it is that makes you laugh, keep on living your life that way. THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO LOVE YOU I know this sounds super corny, but to be honest, it's the truth. Now, I'm not saying you have to be the most popular person in the planet or have a big circle of friends. Me, personally, do not have many friends at all. However, there might be just one person who always checks in with you. Perhaps this person calls or texts once in a blue moon. Whatever the relationship may be, you are a special person to someone. We take people for granted, because maybe we don't express ourselves as often as we should. Does that mean we don't have love for the people around us? If there is anyone in your life who makes an effort to reach out to you, then you are blessed. Be thankful for the people in your life, even if it's a small amount. YOU ENJOY THE LITTLE THINGS IN LIFE The best things in life really are the little things. You don't have to travel everywhere or go to every cool concert on earth to live an "exciting life." Some of my favorite memories I've had are late-night driving at midnight, listening to music and smoking a blunt. Perhaps you enjoy going to the gym, because you have a community of people you see everyday, and you feel like the biggest celebrity. Or, maybe you're so excited to workout, because you can't wait to deadlift 300 pounds and you want to show off in front of all the guys. I'm totally talking about myself, by the way. You get the point. The small things in life are worth living for. YOU ACCEPT YOURSELF, EVEN THROUGH YOUR MISTAKES Some of the biggest lessons I've learned was from the mistakes I've made. Maybe you went to jail, have been passed out drunk, hooked up with a toxic somebody that you'd like to forget, maybe you just have a habit of putting yourself in semi-dangerous situations, and would take it all back. Yes, we've all done things we're not proud of, and you are not a bad person. Read that again, you are not a bad person. The truth of the matter is, you are strong individual who has learned from your past, have been beaten down many times, and at some point in your life, felt like you didn't want to exist. I've been there. You are here right now, stronger than ever, moving forward and doing better for yourself. Be proud of who you are today, right now. Because, we'll never know what it's like to rise if we don't fall. And you, my friend, are here to rise.Read More
Do you find yourself emotional all the time, overwhelmed, and agitated? Do you feel depressed at times, but can't really explain how or why? Are you feeling guilty most of the time? If you answered yes to any of these questions, it may be time for a spiritual cleanse. A spiritual cleanse is the practice of getting in tune with yourself to release negative energy. The goal here is to consume positive energy, and maintain a healthy, positive spirit. Some of these practices are necessary to mundane life. Spiritual cleaning is necessary for many reasons. You can define spiritual cleaning as healing to restore your energy. You can also define it as getting in tune with yourself. Some may need a spiritual cleanse, because they came out of a toxic relationship and am seeking peace. Or, perhaps someone is depressed and anxious, and would like to change the way they think. Here are some ways to start your spiritual cleanse. 1. Know Your Aura- Think of the aura as the center for your emotional, spiritual, and physical health. Examples of aura is when you pet a kitten or a puppy or holding a baby. This interaction would spread good energy, and your aura is partaking positivity. Now, if you were to be around arguing people in a car, in a toxic relationship, you'd most likely consume negativity. Pay attention to your surroundings. If something is making you feel mentally drained, separated yourself from that. By paying attention to your aura, you have more control of where to apply your energy. 2. Recognize Negative Energy- You know the feeling when you're around someone, and the vibes are just off. Perhaps, they're always complaining or gossiping. Maybe, they are controlling, manipulative, and whenever you're around them, you feel drained and negative. Sometimes, you get that gut feeling that something is off, but you can't put your finger on it. By recognizing who or what is bad for your energy, you have more control of your life. Walk away from anything that makes you feel unhealthy. 3. Smudge- This is a popular way that people release negative energy. There are different forms of smudging. Make sure you place your herbs in a heatproof bowl or abalone shell
- Sage for purification
- Cedar for attracting positive energy
- Sweetgrass for cleansing
- Palo santo for clarity and grounding
photo via PinterestThe new year is almost here, and it's time for us to let go of the toxic people in our life. We might not see it that way, but perhaps we are too giving of people in our lives. For example, you may thing you're a good person for giving your friend money, once in a while, because he is broke. Perhaps you think you're doing a good deed for giving your friend a ride, because he has no car. So, I'm here to tell you that maybe you're too giving and you may be putting yourself last.
- You're Being Guilted- If you have "friends" like this, just know that they probably aren't your friends. Say for instance, your boyfriend asks you to come over, but you are too tired to drive, and you do it anyway, to save his feelings. If he get's mad at you, and calls you, "selfish," because you didn't make that drive, then you, my friend, are being guilt tripped. Maybe you have a friend who you text, and one day, you didn't feel like replying. This person may take it personal, and call you a "bad friend," for not responding in a timely manner. If you feel the need to text this person back, because you feel bad, then you are only being guilted to do so.
- You Invest Your Energy on Others More Than Yourself- If you find yourself making time for other people, but cannot find time for yourself, then you might be focusing on the wrong thing. That love you give to others, you need to invest in yourself. For example, if you find yourself always doing people favors, then just say no- take time for yourself to restore your energy. You may be feeling drained, because you don't get enough sleep, are always irritated, and have no time to take care of your own goals. If this is the case, start saying no to others, and making time for yourself.
- You Always Feel Guilty- You have no reason to feel guilty for others. Ask yourself this. "Are these people worried about me?" If the answer is no, then you let people manipulate your feelings. You do not need to feel guilty, because other people are not your responsibility (unless they are your kids). If you find yourself being too empathetic, just know it's not your job to fix others, and you can only do so much.
- You Always End Up Feeling Empty- Perhaps you've done so much for people, that you never feel great. Perhaps you feel used and deep down, empty. If people are always asking you for favors, and you don't get the same love back, perhaps you're dealing with the wrong people. You might feel like all you do is help others, but nobody would ever do the same for you. Say no and you see how you feel.
- People Take Advantage of Your Kindness- You may be a "yes man." You avoid saying no, because you think you are a bad friend. However if you are saying yes to everyone, you may just be a pushover. Don't let people take advantage of you. Be kind, but still have boundaries. Don't worry about how others feel, when you say no. Stick up for yourself, because you are worth it.
New Year's Eve is tomorrow, and I'm sure many of us have no idea what we're going to do to celebrate the holiday! Every year, I ask myself, "What am I doing New Year's Eve?" and it's the same story. I never have time to plan, nor do I ever get invited anywhere cool. If you are a last minute person like me, then have no worries! You can still enjoy your NYE without having to spend a whole bunch of money on Uber, bars, and clubs. So, here are some things you can do to celebrate!
- Have Some Cocktails- Invite your friends over for some drinks, and set up a mini bar. All you need to do is head to the nearest liquor store and gather up some of your best drinks. What would New Year's Eve be without a famous Long Island or a Marquee? You don't have t spend a crazy amount of money on drinks. Perhaps, buy 3 bottles and some mixers, like juice or sweet n' sour. Voila! You've got yourself a bar.
- Throw a Pajama Party- Invite your friends and get ready for an adult slumber party. Perhaps, buy a onesie or some nice fuzzy socks. Be creative with it. Pour some drinks, watch some holiday movies, have a potluck, or put on some Megan Thee Stallion. Whatever makes your party lit, do just that.
- Find a Cool Spot-If you really don't have plans, the best thing to do is find a cool spot, perhaps on a hill or in the mountains somewhere. If you're in a relationship, have your loved one come with you, and share a bottle of champagne. Watch the city, as there will most likely be fireworks of some sort.
- Explore the City With Friends-Literally, go anywhere. Explore the city. Go to nearest place where there's people and cheer, and get lost in a crowd. Celebrate with strangers. Be spontaneous. Go to the nearest bar or restaurant and have some drinks. Sometimes walking around, not having anything planned, is the best thing you can do.
- Get Paid- There are many events being thrown around this time of the year. If you're a bartender, book a gig. Or, if you work at a place where you can make tips, then go to work! Also, if you're an Uber or Left driver, you'll make tons of money picking up party passengers. Get that money, honey! New Year's Eve is a holiday where everyone will most likely be buying drinks, and if you happen to be in that atmosphere, I don't see what's wrong.
- Stay Home- Honestly, if you're not in the mood for celebrating, just stay your butt in bed. Don't be pressured to do anything you don't want to. Watch a movie, have some wine, eat some popcorn or a nice hot meal. Just relax. Know that at the end of the day, you'll be treating yourself, and in the morning, you can prepare yourself for day 1 of 2020.